中学生面临着学业和成长中发生的变化，往往承受着较大的心理压力。

有时候面对父母的期待和管束，我们常常把握不好和他们相处的姿态。

你经常和父母沟通吗？

中学生该如何加强和父母的沟通？

希望以下的表达会对你有所帮助。

Without proper communication, the relationship between parents and teenagers can deteriorate . When we get older, we often find we have stopped having meaningful conversations with our parents. Conflict often arose from my parents thinking they know what is best for me who often wanted something different in life. It is important to work on achieving healthy communication with my parents to maintain a strong relationship with them.建立和父母更亲密和平衡的关系有赖于顺畅的沟通。当双方的期望发生分歧之时，我们应该提高沟通技巧避免冲突。

Step 1

Make time to have meaningful conversations with my parents.

One of the biggest threats to parent-child communication is generational differences in communication.

We teenagers often reach out to others through technology, such as text messages, online chats or email. There is much less face-to-face contact.

Although our parents are catching on, most still prefer a personal conversation or phone call.

Parents' generation has a stronger need for person-to-person conversation.

They would love us to take the time to sit down and have a few minutes of conversation with them everyday. 虽然我们被社交媒体缠身，我们还是应该抽时间跟爸爸妈妈达成面对面的对话。

Step 2

Be open and honest with my parents.

Families often stop communicating because it is easier to ignore an issue than to have a conversation about it.

If an issue is important to me, I should bring it up to my parents.

Bottling up emotions or annoyances can deteriorate the relationship that I have with them.

What I should do is always communicate my feelings in a calm and neutral tone. Let’s avoid getting trapped in the blame game.

We should use "I" statements that talk about how we feel, and avoid "you" statements that point fingers at other people.

Allow time for our parents to respond and share how they feel.

多表达感受。有问题出现时及时想父母告解，不要压抑和封存自己的情绪。学会描述自己的感觉。

Step 3

Conflict and violence should always be prevented when communicating.

If a certain conversation with my parents is taking a turn for the worse, I try to start by taking pause.

It helps to practice deep breathing, excuse myself for a couple of minutes or drink a cold glass of water if I am becoming agitated.

When I am ready to continue with the conversation, I listen to my parents' needs or wants and empathize with them.

I tell them that although I understand their point of view, I also have my own needs and wants.

The next step is to express my perspective and ask them to try and empathize with me as well.当冲突发生时，先暂停冷却一下，等自己冷静了再继续表达自己的需求，期待爸爸妈妈理解。

Step 4

We should not just talk about the difficult stuff.

I talk to my parents about my everyday life, funny experiences and other trivial things.

It’s fun to ask them to share how their day went or what they are working on.

Most of the conversations with my parents should be light-hearted, humorous and spontaneous.

I don't want to talk to them only when I am faced with an issue.

Regular communication about the less important things will make the difficult conversations much easier.多聊生活中的小确幸。多关心爸爸妈妈在工作中的进展，了解他们承受的压力。